Can you believe that it\u2019s already December? This year\u00a0has flown\u00a0by in the blink of an eye and we\u2019re on the verge of yet another year \u2014 a year full of possibility.<\/p>\n

What you will accomplish next year greatly depends on the people you surround yourself with. Or, in other words, it greatly depends on which people you decide not to surround yourself with.<\/p>\n

When bringing in the new year, be sure not<\/em> to bring all your garbage with you. Leave these toxic<\/a> individuals<\/a> in 2014; you\u2019ll feel much lighter, allowing you to get a great running start on the year to come.<\/p>\n

1. The people who make your life more stressful<\/a>.<\/h2>\n
Stress isn\u2019t necessarily a bad thing \u2014 in fact, it\u2019s what you make it out to be. If you believe stress is bad for you, then it will be bad for you. If you use stress as the motivator it is, to motivate you to act, then stress can actually be rather healthy.<\/p>\n
However, you should aim to only be stressed by situations and not by people. If you have people in your life who\u00a0are constantly managing to stress you out, that\u2019s your mind telling you \u2014 and trying to motivate you \u2014 to remove them from your life.<\/p>\n
Life is stressful as it is. You don\u2019t need someone making it more so.<\/p>\n
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2. The people\u00a0who\u00a0use you.<\/h2>\n
To be fair, everyone uses everyone \u2014 and usually it\u2019s OK.\u00a0We interact with others because we find that it will benefit us in some way. If we didn\u2019t believe it would, then we wouldn\u2019t find sufficient reason to interact with them.<\/p>\n
Sometimes we find people<\/a> in our lives who\u00a0use us in ways that end up hurting us. Most people will use us and by doing so, either maintain or improve our wellbeing.<\/p>\n
Then you have those toxic individuals who use you and leave you worse off, sucking you dry and feeding off you like a parasite.<\/p>\n
These sorts of people have no place in your life; don\u2019t bring them into 2015.<\/p>\n
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3. The people who\u00a0don\u2019t respect you.<\/h2>\n
Every respectful person<\/a> deserves to be respected in return; that\u2019s how respect works. If you find that you have a person or people\u00a0in your life who have difficulty giving you the respect you give them, tell them to buzz off.<\/p>\n
Have enough respect for yourself to never allow others to disrespect<\/a> you and remain a part of your life.<\/p>\n
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4. The people who\u00a0always manage to hurt you.<\/h2>\n
People can be silly sometimes. The people we keep a part of our lives are the people we care about \u2014 or at least, that\u00a0ought to be the case. Some of these individuals, sadly, end up hurting us and causing us pain.<\/p>\n
The problem is that when others cause us pain, we\u2019re reminded of how much those people\u00a0mean to us. If they could hurt us emotionally, we must care for them and what they think of us a great deal \u2014 so we allow them to remain a part of our lives.<\/p>\n
Often, we\u2019ll even allow these individuals to take up more room. People hurt other people \u2014 it\u2019s just the way the world works. But if you have someone in your life who\u00a0can\u2019t manage to stop hurting you, do yourself a favor and cut that person off.<\/p>\n
Pain is only good if it teaches you a lesson. In this case, the lesson is to stop allowing others to use you as a punching bag<\/a>.<\/p>\n
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5. The people who\u00a0can\u2019t seem to stop lying to you.<\/h2>\n
Everyone lies. In fact, within the first few minutes of meeting a new person, that person is likely to lie to you a handful of times. Most lies are harmless, but that all changes when the people who\u00a0are lying to you are the people you trust.<\/p>\n
Fill your life with trustworthy people and you\u2019ll be\u00a0far better off. You can find lies just about anywhere. Finding the truth, on the other hand, is much more rare.<\/p>\n
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6. The\u00a0people who\u00a0smile to your face and then insult you behind your back.<\/h2>\n
These are the scum of the scum, cowards that don\u2019t have the guts to speak their minds. These individuals enjoy pretending to be your friend while telling the rest of the world that you\u2019re a piece of sh*t.<\/p>\n
These people will ruin your reputation and, as most of us now know, reputation matters a whole lot in the world we live in. Only idiots would start a new year with these sorts of individuals in their life.<\/p>\n
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7. The people\u00a0who don\u2019t care about you, but love to pretend they do.<\/h2>\n
We\u2019ve all had people in our lives who act like our friends only when it\u2019s convenient for them.<\/p>\n
These toxic individuals are \u201cpseudo friends\u201d \u2014 a lot of fun to hang out with, and more than willing to accept help, but when you need their help they\u2019re miraculously nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n
These individuals are especially toxic because\u00a0they give you the illusion of a safety net. You think you can lean on them for support, but when you reach for their shoulder, you fall over and hit the ground.<\/p>\n
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8. The people\u00a0who drag you back into your old lifestyle.<\/h2>\n
Life is only interesting and exciting if it\u2019s constantly progressing. Only when we\u2019re constantly moving forward, constantly improving ourselves and our surroundings, are we able to find contentment and happiness.<\/p>\n
Most people always manage to keep people in their lives who\u00a0are holding on to the life you once had.<\/p>\n
You have worked hard to progress and make changes, but these individuals prefer life the way it used to be, and do their best to bring you back to the cave you just crawled out of.<\/p>\n
Be wary of these folks, they\u2019re often difficult to pinpoint and always manage to revert the progress you worked so hard to make.<\/p>\n
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9. The people\u00a0who hold you back.<\/h2>\n
There\u2019s a fact to life that I\u2019ve grown to accept over the past few years \u2014 a fact that isn\u2019t especially pleasant, but nonetheless necessary to accept as truth: Many people in your life, the people you call friends, shouldn\u2019t be a part of your life.<\/p>\n
As time passes, we change as individuals. Our hopes and goals change, often leaving the relationships we have in place outdated.<\/p>\n
Many of the people in your life likely don\u2019t want to live the life you\u2019re building for yourself. Because they\u2019re egocentric, they\u2019ll do their best to create their version of their ideal life and drag you into it.<\/p>\n
Most times, people fail to create the life of their dreams because they surround themselves with people aiming for something entirely different.<\/p>\n
If your goals aren\u2019t aligned, your lives aren\u2019t either.<\/p>\n
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10. The people just taking up space.<\/h2>\n
Everything in life is limited. Resources are limited. Time is limited. Space is limited. What you can accomplish within a lifetime is limited. We can\u2019t, and never will be able to, have it all.<\/p>\n
This is why you have to be very careful with not only what you choose to do, but with whom you choose to do it with.<\/p>\n
You can only maintain a handful of strong relationships at any given time \u2014 you just don\u2019t have the time, energy or mental focus to handle more.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re filling your life with half-assed individuals, you\u2019re bound to create a half-assed life. If someone isn\u2019t adding to your life, then, by default, they\u2019re taking away from it.<\/p>\n
Leave them in 2014 and build a better inner circle.<\/p>\n
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Pretty good advice if you ask me.<\/p>\n
Reposted from:\u00a0http:\/\/elitedaily.com\/life\/toxic-people-new-year\/879975\/<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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